To christen one's own CHILD first

Meaning & Analysis

A priest should baptize his own child before baptizing the children of his parishioners or others.

Insights

Primacy of Self-Interest

The proverb serves as a justification for prioritizing one's own needs, interests, and well-being before attending to the needs of others. It champions a pragmatic approach to self-preservation.

Family First Principle

It underscores the principle that one's primary duty is to one's own family and dependents. Before extending help to the wider community, one must first secure the welfare of their immediate kin.

Securing One's Own Foundation

The act of 'christening' symbolizes the allocation of resources, effort, and attention. The proverb advises that one should invest in their own ventures or responsibilities before diverting resources elsewhere.

Religious Framing of Self-Interest

Rooted in a Christian cultural context, the proverb uses the sacrament of baptism as a vehicle to legitimize prioritizing personal or familial needs, framing self-interest as a natural and even righteous duty.

Cultural Parallel

This proverb serves as a more vivid and action-oriented parallel to 'Charity begins at home', reflecting a societal acknowledgment of the tension between communal obligations and the practical necessity of self-preservation.

Psychological Pragmatism

The proverb taps into the fundamental psychological impulse for self-preservation and kin selection, providing a socially acceptable justification for prioritizing one's own interests before extending help to others.

Rhetorical Devices

Metaphor

The act of 'christening a child' serves as a powerful and culturally specific metaphor for taking care of one's most immediate and important responsibilities.

Implied Authority

The proverb's structure implies a normative rule or accepted social wisdom, presenting a potentially selfish act as a common-sense, justifiable priority.

Symbolic Parallelism

The proverb is directly and explicitly linked to 'Charity begins at home', using a different cultural symbol (a sacrament vs. an abstract virtue) to convey the same principle.

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Transcription

Quotations

'Tis good Christning of a mans own child first.

1659, HOW., Eng. Prov., p. 3

Ile christen my own child first.

Ibid., p. 11

To dish out ones own pottage first; the English say, to christen ones own child first.

1666, TOR., Prov. Phr., s.v. Minestra, p. 105

'Tis good christening a mans own child first.

1670, RAY, p. 129

Charity . . begins at home, you know; and ever, while you live, Christen your own Child first.

1694, D'URFEEY, 2 Don Quix., III ii, p. 146

The Priest christens his own Bairn first.

1721, KEL., p. 310

I will christen my own Child first.

1732, FUL., no. 2633

You know, the parson always christens his own child first.

1738, SWIFT, Pol. Conv., I, p. 388

Cross References

Annotations

  1. An Apology for serving our selves before our Neighbours.
  2. Eng. Charity begins at home.

Original Scan

To christen one's own CHILD first - a scanned entry from Tilley's 1950 Dictionary of Proverbs.
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