Who drives an ASS and leads a whore has pain and sorrow evermore

Meaning & Analysis

A person who attempts to control both an ass and a whore—symbols of stubbornness and unpredictability—will face continual hardship and distress.

Insights

Burden of Misguided Attachments

This proverb warns that maintaining ties with individuals or roles marked by resistance or ungovernability leads to ongoing suffering. The ass and the whore symbolize two kinds of unmanageable burdens.

Futility of Control

Suggests that attempting to dominate what is inherently unruly—be it stubborn animals or unfaithful lovers—is a self-defeating endeavor bound to yield frustration.

Moral and Social Judgment

The pairing conveys a traditional moral warning against associating with socially disreputable or low-status companions, casting such associations as causes of shame and emotional turmoil.

Historical Gender and Class Bias

The proverb reflects patriarchal and moralistic attitudes that demean women involved in sex work, aligning them with animals to convey their perceived unreliability or burden—thereby reinforcing misogynistic and classist ideologies.

Cultural Symbolism of the Ass

The ass, long symbolic of stubbornness and servitude, stands in for difficult labor or unyielding responsibility. Its coupling with the 'whore' intensifies the image of emotional and physical exhaustion.

Emotional and Physical Exhaustion

By pairing literal labor (driving an ass) with emotional entanglement (leading a whore), the proverb captures a life overwhelmed by constant effort, frustration, and social disapproval.

Rhetorical Devices

Rhyming Couplet

The use of rhyme in 'whore' and 'evermore' creates a rhythmic, almost poetic phrasing, reinforcing the proverb’s memorability and folk resonance.

Juxtaposition

The stark contrast of driving a beast of burden and leading a socially stigmatized woman emphasizes the multiple forms of hardship—physical and moral—the speaker warns against.

Symbolism

Both the ass and the whore function symbolically, representing enduring labor and social scandal respectively, making the proverb a compact allegory for personal misfortune.

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Analyzed with gpt-4o on July 10, 2025

Transcription

Quotations

(hes toyl and sorrow for evermore)

a.1598, FERG., MS, no. 1528

He that beleeues a woman and leads an Asse, hath brought his bodie (and mind) t'an euill passe.

1611, COT, s.v. Mener

(Hath toile and sorrow)

1617, MORYSON, Itinerary, III I ii, III 403
1639, CL., p. 259

He that believes a woman, and leads an Ass, will never be in quiet.

1658, E. PHILLIPS, Myst. Love and Eloq., p. 175

(busieth himself alwaies, and is never out of trouble)

1666, TOR., It. Prov., 13, p. 15
1670, RAY, p. 52

Cross References

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Who drives an ASS and leads a whore has pain and sorrow evermore - a scanned entry from Tilley's 1950 Dictionary of Proverbs.
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