How does your WHITHER GO YOU?

Meaning & Analysis

This is a coded and jocular way of asking, 'How is your wife?' The phrase 'Whither go you?' (an archaic form of 'Where are you going?') is used as a nickname for the wife, implying she is always questioning her husband's whereabouts.

Insights

The Wife as Inquisitor

The proverb metaphorically characterizes the wife as the embodiment of marital accountability. She is not a person but a persistent question, representing the perceived constraints and scrutiny of married life for a husband.

Freedom vs. Domesticity

It symbolizes the tension between male freedom (the desire to 'go' without explanation) and domestic responsibility (the need to answer to a spouse). The question highlights a perceived conflict between personal liberty and marital obligation.

Satirical Euphemism

The phrase serves as a euphemistic and satirical reference to a spouse, allowing for commentary on marital dynamics without direct or serious confrontation. It turns a potentially nagging question into a shared cultural joke among men.

Gender Roles and Marriage

This proverb reflects 17th-century patriarchal attitudes, where a wife's role was perceived by some men as being primarily to monitor their husbands' activities. The phrase captures a sense of marital constraint and satirical complaint, common in the social commentary of the era.

Psychological Undercurrents

The proverb offers a psychological glimpse into a cynical male perspective on marriage, framing the spouse not as a partner but as an inquisitor. The humor is a vehicle for expressing resentment toward perceived domestic scrutiny and loss of freedom.

Coded Social Inquiry

As a form of social code, this question allows men to inquire about each other's domestic lives in a jocular, indirect manner. It reinforces a shared male experience of marriage as a state of being held accountable.

Rhetorical Devices

Anthimeria (Interrogative as Noun)

The entire interrogative phrase 'Whither go you?' is used as a noun to refer to the wife. This grammatical substitution is the central stylistic device that gives the proverb its unique, witty, and satirical force.

Metonymy

The proverb uses metonymy by substituting the wife with a question she stereotypically asks. The question represents her entire perceived role in the marriage from the husband's perspective.

Satire

The inquiry is deeply satirical, using a polite form ('How does your...?') to deliver a humorous and slightly derogatory characterization of a spouse, exposing underlying marital tensions.

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Transcription

Quotations

*Your wife.

1678, RAY, p. 346

Original Scan

How does your WHITHER GO YOU? - a scanned entry from Tilley's 1950 Dictionary of Proverbs.
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