SYMPATHY (Similitude) of manners makes the conjunction of minds

Meaning & Analysis

True intellectual and emotional unity between people is formed not by chance, but by a fundamental similarity in their character, habits, and moral disposition.

Insights

The Principle of Homophily

The proverb articulates the sociological concept that 'like attracts like.' It suggests that enduring relationships are based on shared values and behavioral codes ('manners') rather than complementary differences.

Resonance over Friction

It implies that social harmony is mechanical: just as two instruments tuned alike resonate together, two minds with similar 'settings' (manners) naturally align ('conjunction') without the friction of misunderstanding.

The Narcissism of Friendship

Psychologically, it hints that we seek friends who mirror ourselves. The 'conjunction of minds' is essentially the validation of one's own identity found in another person.

Classical echo

The 1571 citation ('Morum similitudo consultat amicitias') reveals the proverb's root in classical moral philosophy, likely echoing Cicero’s *De Amicitia*, which argues that friendship is nothing else than 'an accord in all things, human and divine.' It elevates friendship from a casual bond to a rational alignment of virtue.

Astrological terminology

The word 'conjunction' carries specific weight in the Renaissance imagination. In astronomy and astrology, a conjunction occurs when two celestial bodies align in the same longitude. By using this term, the proverb elevates human friendship to the status of a cosmic event—a destined alignment of spiritual orbits.

High vs. Low Culture

This is the aristocratic, humanist equivalent of the folk proverb 'Like will to like' or 'Birds of a feather flock together.' While the folk versions use animal imagery, this version uses abstract, Latinate concepts ('similitude,' 'manners'), marking it as a maxim for the educated courtier (like the characters in Lyly's *Euphues*).

Definition of 'Manners'

In the 16th century, 'manners' (from the Latin *mores*) referred to deep moral character and habitual conduct, not merely polite etiquette. The proverb argues for a shared ethical foundation, not just shared table manners.

Rhetorical Devices

Elevated Diction

The use of polysyllabic, Latinate nouns ('Sympathy', 'Similitude', 'Conjunction') gives the saying an air of scientific precision and philosophical gravity suitable for courtly discourse.

Alliteration

The repeated 'm' sounds in 'manners,' 'makes,' and 'minds' create a soft, binding rhythm that sonically reinforces the theme of unity and connection.

Parallelism

The structure balances cause ('Similitude of manners') and effect ('conjunction of minds'), suggesting a logical, almost mathematical inevitability to the relationship.

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Transcription

Quotations

They say, Morum similitudo consultat amicitias.

1571, R. EDWARDS, Damon and Pithias, s. B2

I think love chiefly to be grounded upon the similitude of manners.

1576, PETTIE, Pet. Pal., I 137

Doth not the sympathy of manners, make the coniunction of mindes?

1578, LYLY, Euph. Anat. Wit, p. 197

The friendschippe betweene man and man . . proceedeth of the similitude of manners.

Ibid., p. 235

(maketh Conjunction of Minds).

1732, FUL., no. 4300

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SYMPATHY (Similitude) of manners makes the conjunction of minds - a scanned entry from Tilley's 1950 Dictionary of Proverbs.
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