She is neither MAID, wife, nor widow

Meaning & Analysis

The phrase describes a woman who does not fit into any of the three primary, socially-defined female roles of the era: an unmarried virgin (maid), a married woman (wife), or a woman whose husband has died (widow).

Insights

Social Transgression

The proverb functions as a euphemism or innuendo for a prostitute or a woman of 'loose morals'. By existing outside the only acceptable social categories, she is relegated to a fourth, unspoken one defined by sexual transgression.

Ambiguous Identity

The phrase signifies a woman who occupies an ambiguous and unsettling social space. She defies easy categorization within the established social hierarchy, making her a figure of suspicion and moral condemnation.

Loss of Honor

Symbolically, the proverb represents a fall from grace or a loss of honor. In the context of the era, a woman who was neither a virgin, nor married, nor widowed was considered to have lost her virtue and social standing.

Patriarchal Social Structure

This proverb reveals a rigid patriarchal social structure where a woman's identity was defined exclusively by her relationship to a man (father, husband, or deceased husband). The phrase underscores the societal anxiety surrounding female sexuality that exists outside the institution of marriage.

Gender Double Standard

The lack of an equivalent proverb for men highlights a historical gender bias. A man's identity was defined by profession, wealth, or lineage, not solely by his marital or sexual status, exposing a significant double standard.

Psychology of Exclusion

Being defined by a series of negations ('neither/nor') implies social condemnation and marginalization. It casts the woman as a social anomaly, existing in a liminal state outside of all respectable categories, leading to suspicion and judgment.

Literary and Dramatic Use

Used by dramatists like Peele and Shakespeare, the phrase served as a potent and concise tool for characterization, immediately signaling to the audience that a female character was of questionable morals or a prostitute, as explicitly noted in the 'Measure for Measure' citation.

Rhetorical Devices

Rhetorical Negation

The subject is defined entirely by what she is not. The repeated use of 'neither' and 'nor' powerfully emphasizes her exclusion from all socially acceptable roles, creating a sense of a void or non-status.

Tricolon

The list of three roles—'maid, wife, nor widow'—creates a memorable and emphatic rhythm. This triadic structure presents the categories as a complete and exhaustive set, thereby magnifying the subject's exclusion.

Innuendo

The phrase operates as a form of innuendo, where the listener understands the implied, unstated meaning (a prostitute) through the process of elimination from the respectable categories.

identitygender-rolespatriarchysocial-statusmarginalizationsexuality
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Transcription

Quotations

She that is neither maide, wife, nor widowe.

1595, PEELE, Old Wives' Tale, l. 1047, s. F1

For it is now doubtfull what thou art, being neither Maide, wife, nor, saving your reverence, widow.

1633, W. ROWLEY, All's Lost by Lust, III i 13

She is neither wife, widow, nor maid.

1678, RAY, p. 90
1732, FUL., no. 4132

Shakespeare Citations

My lord, she may be a punk; for many of them are neither maid, widow, nor wife.

MM, V.i

Annotations

  1. A whore.

Original Scan

She is neither MAID, wife, nor widow - a scanned entry from Tilley's 1950 Dictionary of Proverbs.
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