LIVING WELL is the best revenge

Meaning & Analysis

The most effective way to retaliate against someone who has wronged you is not through retaliation, but by leading a good, successful, and honorable life.

Insights

Triumph through Integrity

Rather than stooping to vengeance, this proverb suggests moral superiority and inner strength are the ultimate forms of retaliation. Living with virtue and success nullifies the power of one’s enemies.

Self-Mastery as Power

It symbolizes that control over one’s own conduct and emotions—particularly in the face of injustice—is a greater assertion of power than retaliation, and more psychologically satisfying.

Transcending Negativity

The proverb implies that personal flourishing is a way of rising above bitterness or harm. By investing in one’s own well-being, one renders adversaries irrelevant.

Stoic and Classical Roots

The idea echoes classical Stoic thought and Diogenes’ philosophy, as noted in early modern quotations. Revenge is not through harm but through personal virtue and flourishing—an ethical form of retaliation.

Cultural Turn Against Vengeance

By the 17th century, moral and religious movements began to emphasize forgiveness and self-governance over personal vengeance, framing ‘living well’ as a dignified alternative rooted in Protestant and humanist ideals.

Psychological Reversal

The proverb cleverly reframes revenge—not as harm, but as the enemy’s emotional suffering from witnessing your success. It channels the desire for justice into productive self-assertion.

Social Recognition of Worth

Public success or visible virtue can act as a reputational rebuke to slander or hostility. The proverb suggests social capital and moral integrity erode the influence of malicious detractors.

Rhetorical Devices

Paradox

The phrase paradoxically redefines 'revenge'—traditionally associated with harm—as self-improvement, creating a striking and memorable twist of meaning.

Antithesis

Contrasts vengeance with virtue, showing that moral excellence can be more powerful than retaliation, reinforcing the proverb’s counterintuitive wisdom.

Maxim

Its concise, axiomatic form gives the saying rhetorical power and moral clarity, typical of Enlightenment-era proverbs and Franklin’s aphorisms.

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Transcription

Quotations

The greatest harme that you can doe vnto the enuious, is to doe well.

1578, LYLY, Euph. Anat. Wit, p. 285

Nothing will grieve thine enemy more than thy perfect honest life.

c.1640, W.S., Countrym. Commonw., p. 13
1640, HERB., no. 520

Wilt thou be revenged of thy enemy? carry thy self well.

1659, HOW., It. Prov., p. 12

Hast a mind to revenge thy self on thy enemie, order thy self as thou shouldst do, and the business is done.

1666, TOR., It. Prov., 28, p. 299

None [of Diogenes' sayings] charms me more than the answer he made to one that asked him what was the best way to be revenged on a enemy? Says he, By approving yourself an honest good man.

1725, N. BAILEY, Sober Banquet: Familiar Colloq., p. 350

The greatest Mischief you can do the Envious is to do well.

1732, FUL., no. 4575

If you would be reveng'd of your enemy, govern yourself.

1734, FRANKLIN, p. 8

Wouldst thou confound thine Enemy, be good thy self.

1750, FRANKLIN, p. 26

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LIVING WELL is the best revenge - a scanned entry from Tilley's 1950 Dictionary of Proverbs. LIVING WELL is the best revenge - a scanned entry from Tilley's 1950 Dictionary of Proverbs. (continuation)
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