Long absent soon FORGOTTEN

Meaning & Analysis

When someone or something is gone or out of view for a long time, they are likely to be forgotten by others.

Insights

Transience of Memory

Highlights the fleeting nature of human memory and emotional attachment; absence gradually erases even strong connections unless actively maintained.

Fragility of Relationships

Warns that relationships, loyalties, and affections require regular presence or contact; without it, they easily fade or are replaced.

Historical Symbolism

Early modern English society, highly dependent on face-to-face communication and personal presence, viewed prolonged absence as a risk to both reputation and affection. The proverb succinctly captures the anxiety surrounding separation in an age before rapid communication.

Literary and Cultural Resonance

Variants such as 'Out of sight, out of mind' and 'Seldom seen, soon forgotten' abound across cultures. Shakespeare’s 'Othello' dramatizes the fear that absence diminishes love and recognition, a universal human concern echoed in countless works of literature.

Psychological Dimensions

Reflects basic psychological mechanisms: memories and attachments weaken without reinforcement. The proverb also points to the pain of neglect and the need for mutual effort to sustain bonds over time.

Rhetorical Devices

Ellipsis

The proverb omits explicit connectors, making its phrasing concise, direct, and easily memorable.

Alliteration

The repetition of the 's' sound in 'soon forgotten' adds a lyrical quality and aids memorability.

Antithesis

Contrasts presence and absence, remembrance and forgetfulness, to sharpen the proverb’s message.

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Transcription

Quotations

By longe absence brought out of memory.

c.1565, WEVER, Lusty Juventus, s. C3v

Absence doth purchase forgetfulness of friends.

1591, STEP., p. 152

Long absence . . breeds forgetfulness.

1611, COT., s.v. Ami
1616, DR., no. 9
1659, N.R., p. 74

(and soon).

1664, COD., p. 203
1670, RAY, p. 55

Shakespeare Citations

I being absent, and my place supplied, My general will forget my love and service.

Oth, III.iii

Cross References

Original Scan

Long absent soon FORGOTTEN - a scanned entry from Tilley's 1950 Dictionary of Proverbs.
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