Be it better, be it worse, do after him that bears the PURSE

Meaning & Analysis

Whether circumstances are good or bad, one should follow the direction or wishes of the person who controls the money.

Insights

Financial Power

The proverb reflects the reality that authority and decision-making often rest with those who possess or control resources. It highlights the influence money holds over actions and choices.

Pragmatism and Dependency

It suggests a pragmatic approach: dependency on a benefactor or employer necessitates compliance with their wishes, regardless of whether one agrees with the outcome.

Compromise and Submission

Underscores the necessity—or inevitability—of yielding to those in financial control, even if it means accepting less desirable situations.

Historical and Social Context

Historically, the purse symbolized not only literal wealth but also the power to direct social and familial affairs. The proverb’s long record in English literature and everyday speech reflects the embeddedness of economic authority in social hierarchies and relationships.

Literary Resonance

Closely echoes the language of marital vows ('for better or for worse'), subtly likening financial dependence to the bonds of marriage—a relationship where loyalty and submission are expected, sometimes despite personal preference.

Psychological Dimension

Reveals the psychological dynamics of dependence and self-interest, where individuals may subdue their desires or judgments to align with the will of a provider, underscoring money’s capacity to shape not only actions but also loyalties.

Rhetorical Devices

Parallelism

The paired clauses ('be it better, be it worse') create a rhythmic, balanced structure that enhances memorability and underscores the inevitability of the situation.

Metonymy

'The purse' stands for financial power and by extension, the one who wields it—compressing the complex reality of economic control into a simple object.

Proverbial Formula

The structure mirrors other traditional sayings (such as wedding vows), embedding the phrase in a familiar rhetorical and cultural pattern.

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Transcription

Quotations

(or be it worse).

a.1536, HILL, 7, p. 130

(be it wurs, Doo ye after).

1546, HEY, I v, s. B2

For it is an old prouerbe, Be it better, or be it worse, Please you the man that beares the purse.

1612, DELONEY, T. Reading 8, p. 244
1611, DAV., Prov., no. 384

[As in 1546 Hey.]

1611, GRUT., no. 50

[As in 1546 Hey.]

1614, CAM., p. 304

(that rules the purse).

1616, DR., no. 1382

(be rul'd by him).

1630, CL., p. 232

Bee the counsell better, bee it worse, follow him, that beares the purse.

c.1640, SMYTH, 68, p. 32

(Be it for better or for worse, Follow him).

1659, HOW., Eng. Prov., p. 17

(or be it worse, be rul'd by him).

1670, RAY, p. 135

Hark you Child .. as long as he maintains you, be rul'd by him that bears the purse.

1680, DRYDEN, Limberham, II i, p. 38

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