Prove your FRIEND ere you have need

Meaning & Analysis

Test or evaluate the reliability of your friends before you are in a situation where you must depend on them.

Insights

Preparation and Foresight

The proverb encourages foresight in relationships, suggesting that it is wise to understand the true character and loyalty of friends in advance, rather than waiting until crisis strikes.

Cautious Trust

It metaphorically underscores the importance of not placing blind trust in untested friendships, warning that unproven allies may fail when most needed.

Historical Symbolism

Early sources consistently advise testing friends in times of ease, not waiting until adversity reveals their true nature. The proverb aligns with a long tradition in English and European moral literature that equates friendship with proven reliability rather than mere sentiment.

Psychological Dimensions

The saying reflects an understanding of human nature: people often appear dependable in good times, but real allegiance is demonstrated through small trials or acts before major need arises. The advice is both prudent and protective against disappointment.

Cultural Resonance

Similar maxims appear worldwide—such as 'Try before you trust'—highlighting a universal anxiety about betrayal and a common-sense approach to social bonds.

Rhetorical Devices

Archaic Diction

The use of 'ere' and 'prove' (meaning 'test') imparts a sense of old wisdom and lends the phrase a proverbial, time-honored authority.

Ellipsis

The succinct, imperative phrasing omits unnecessary explanation, increasing the force and universality of the advice.

Parallelism

The rhythm of 'prove your friend ere you have need' gives the saying a memorable cadence, aiding transmission and recall.

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Transcription

Quotations

Ore thow haue nede, assay thy frend.

a.1500, PROV., Wisdom, 1. 30
c.1526, Dicta Sap., s. A4

(Assay thy frend or).

a.1536, HILL, 34, p. 132
1546, HEY., I xi, s. E4

Yf thou wil do wel, do as the english prouerbe byddeth the. Proue thy frende, ere thou haue nede.

1552, TAV., f. 68v

(er thou neede).

1562, HEY., Epig., 27, p. 132

(Chairg your freind).

a.1598, FERG., MS, no. 305

(ere thou neede).

1611, DAV., Prov., no. 115
1611, GRUT., no. 217
1614, CAM., p. 311

Trie thy friend before that thou hast need of him.

1616, DR., no. 803
1659, HOW., Eng. Prov., p. 9

(before thou needest him).

1664, COD., p. 209

Charge your friend ere you need.

1668, R.B., p. 15
1687, MIEGE, s.v. Friend

Charge your Friend, ere you need him.

1721, KEL., p. 83

Cross References

Annotations

  1. That you may know what to expect from him, if you do.

Original Scan

Prove your FRIEND ere you have need - a scanned entry from Tilley's 1950 Dictionary of Proverbs. Prove your FRIEND ere you have need - a scanned entry from Tilley's 1950 Dictionary of Proverbs. (continuation)
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