To wear the WILLOW

Meaning & Analysis

The phrase refers to the act of wearing a garland or wreath made from the branches of a willow tree, typically on one's head.

Insights

Grief from Forsaken Love

The primary meaning is to suffer from the grief and humiliation of unrequited love or being abandoned by a lover. The willow garland serves as a public emblem of romantic rejection and sorrow.

Symbol of Defeat and Sadness

More broadly, it represents a state of mourning, defeat, or general wretchedness. This is often contrasted with wearing a laurel wreath, which symbolizes victory and honor.

Botanical Symbolism

The weeping willow tree, with its characteristically drooping branches, has long been a powerful natural symbol of sadness, tears, and mourning in Western culture, making it an intuitively fitting emblem for grief.

Literary and Cultural Resonance

This proverb was a well-established trope in Elizabethan and Jacobean literature, most famously used by Shakespeare. In 'Othello', Desdemona's 'Willow Song' indelibly links the tree to tragic, forsaken love, cementing its status as a symbol of heartbreak.

Psychology of Ritual

The act of 'wearing' the willow transforms a private feeling of heartbreak into a public symbol. It serves as a cultural ritual, allowing individuals to communicate their status as a jilted lover without words, turning personal sorrow into a recognized social signifier.

Rhetorical Devices

Symbolism

The willow itself is the central and most powerful feature, serving as a direct and poignant symbol for grief, sorrow, and the specific pain of lost love.

Metonymy

The phrase uses metonymy, where the 'willow' stands in for the entire abstract emotional experience of heartbreak, allowing a tangible object to represent a complex feeling.

Alliteration

The repetition of the 'w' sound in 'wear the willow' creates a soft, wistful, and melancholic cadence that phonetically reinforces the phrase's sorrowful tone and enhances its memorability.

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Transcription

Quotations

Let Wyllows wynde aboute my hed (A Wrethe for Wretches mete).

1563, GOOGE, Eclog. Epit. and Sonn., p. 52

Which makes mee to weare, the willow Garland.

1578, T. PROCTOR ET AL., Gorg. Gallery, p. 84

Yield up the lawrell garland ye have lost: And let all others willow wear with me.

1597, J. HALL, Satires, I iv, p. 16

Crying, Cupid doth but willow weare, While worthy Mars is with the Lawrell crowned.

1605, BRETON, Hon. Valor, Wks., I 5

There's Lucida wears the willow garland for you.

1612, N. FIELD, Woman Is Weathercock, I ii, p. 25

With a free-soul I wish All joy crown your union! I am content To wear the willow now.

1673, D'AVENANT, Siege, V, p. 436

Shakespeare Citations

Tell him . . I'll wear the willow garland for his sake.

3H6, III.iii

‘Tell him . . I’ll wear the willow garland for his sake.’

3H6, IV.i

I off'red him my company to a willow tree . . to make him a garland, as being forsaken.

Ado, II.i

Sing all a green willow must be my garland.

Oth, IV.iii

Original Scan

To wear the WILLOW - a scanned entry from Tilley's 1950 Dictionary of Proverbs. To wear the WILLOW - a scanned entry from Tilley's 1950 Dictionary of Proverbs. (continuation)
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