Meaning & Analysis
Ignoring an offense is more effective at ending its power over you than attempting to avenge it.
Insights
Power of Indifference
Suggests that indifference can neutralize the emotional and social impact of harm, denying the offender the attention or reaction they may seek.
Revenge Perpetuates Harm
Contrasts neglect with revenge, implying that retaliation often fuels a cycle of conflict, whereas neglect dissolves it by depriving it of further energy.
Psychological Release
Frames neglect as a form of emotional liberation, allowing the injured party to move forward instead of remaining entangled in resentment or vengeance.
Stoic Philosophy and Emotional Mastery
Aligns with Stoic and early modern ideals of emotional self-regulation—where to ‘pass by’ injury is a sign of strength and wisdom, not weakness. Figures like Seneca and later Franklin echo this ethic of composed restraint.
Cultural Shift from Honor to Restraint
Reflects a cultural movement from revenge-based honor codes toward Enlightenment values of reason, civility, and psychological detachment. By the 18th century, social prestige was increasingly linked with rational control rather than reactive aggression.
Social Strategy of Silence
As Ben Jonson’s quote suggests, silence or neglect can serve as a strategic form of social superiority. Ignoring calumny can appear dignified, whereas response may appear insecure or petty.
Rhetorical Devices
Antithesis
Juxtaposes ‘neglect’ and ‘revenge’ to highlight their contrasting emotional and moral consequences, reinforcing the message through structural opposition.
Personification
By saying ‘neglect will kill an injury,’ the proverb animates both neglect and injury, turning an abstract concept into a vivid interaction between emotional forces.
Parallelism
The rhythmic balance in phrases like ‘Neglect kills Injuries, Revenge increases them’ (as in Franklin’s version) enhances memorability and rhetorical impact.
Transcription
Quotations
Sir, calumnies are answer'd best with silence.
Often-times it hath beene better to winke at, and passe by an iniurie then to reuenge it.
Neglect will sooner kill an Injury than Revenge.
Neglect kills Injuries, Revenge increases them.
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