LOVE is full of fear (trouble)

Meaning & Analysis

Love often comes accompanied by fear, anxiety, or emotional turmoil, rather than being purely joyful or secure.

Insights

Vulnerability in Attachment

The proverb suggests that genuine love exposes one to emotional risk—fear of loss, rejection, or betrayal—making anxiety an inseparable part of affection.

Intensity of Investment

Emphasizes that the deeper one loves, the greater the stakes become, generating fear as a natural response to the potential for heartbreak or disappointment.

Emotional Ambivalence

Presents love as a state of internal contradiction—joy entangled with dread—reflecting the psychological complexity and emotional turbulence of romantic passion.

Medieval and Renaissance Sentiment

From Barclay to Shakespeare, the connection between love and fear was a well-trodden theme. Courtly love literature often portrayed lovers as tormented by uncertainty, jealousy, or the beloved's indifference.

Shakespearean Confirmation

In *Venus and Adonis*, Shakespeare personifies love as fear-ridden, reinforcing the idea that passion is inherently destabilizing—'fond love, thou art so full of fear' speaks to the helpless anxiety lovers endure.

Psychological Insight

The proverb anticipates modern attachment theory: emotional closeness breeds dependency, which in turn awakens fears of abandonment or inadequacy. Love heightens sensitivity to threat, real or imagined.

Fear as Proof of Depth

Paradoxically, the presence of fear may signify the seriousness of love—where indifference brings calm, true affection stirs unrest, demonstrating emotional investment rather than weakness.

Rhetorical Devices

Personification

Love is personified as a being filled with fear or beset by trouble, dramatizing its emotional intensity and vulnerability.

Antithesis

The juxtaposition of 'love' (associated with joy) and 'fear' (associated with distress) heightens the emotional contradiction central to the proverb's impact.

Alliteration

Phrases like 'fear and trouble' and 'full of fear' employ soft alliteration that enhances the proverb’s rhythm and expressive quality.

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Transcription

Quotations

This prouerbe that I the lere . . Loue goeth neuer without fere.

c1503, A. BARCLAY, Castle Labor, s. D3v
1594, MUNDAY, John a Kent, IV, p. 50

Loue neuer was without both feare and teares.

1596, DEL., s. M3v

(trouble).

1616, DR., no. 1322

There is never no good Loue with out Feare.

1623, WOD., p. 501

Shakespeare Citations

‘Fie, fie, fond love, thou art so full of fear.’

Ven, 1021

Cross References

Original Scan

LOVE is full of fear (trouble) - a scanned entry from Tilley's 1950 Dictionary of Proverbs.
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