ALL is (All stratagems are) lawful in love and war

Meaning & Analysis

In both romantic pursuit and military conflict, any tactic or deception is considered permissible in order to achieve one's goal.

Insights

Moral Suspension in Extreme Circumstances

The proverb metaphorically suggests that the usual rules of morality or fairness are suspended in emotionally or existentially intense situations—such as love and war—where outcomes justify methods.

Justification of Deceit

It highlights a worldview in which manipulation, trickery, or aggressive tactics are excused if they occur in the name of passion or survival—domains traditionally seen as driven by uncontrollable forces.

Human Instinct Over Law

It also reflects a belief that instinctual drives—love and self-preservation—override ethical boundaries, casting strategic behavior as natural rather than immoral.

Renaissance and Restoration Ethics

The proverb appears prominently in early modern English drama, reflecting a tension between emerging notions of chivalry and the cynical realism of courtly or political life. In Fletcher, Behn, and Centlivre, it captures the theatrical embrace of cleverness over virtue.

Gender and Power Dynamics

In literature and society, 'love' was often feminized and 'war' masculinized. The proverb unites both domains under the license of strategy, reflecting a cultural fascination with subversion, seduction, and tactical wit in gendered power plays.

Philosophical Realism vs. Moral Idealism

Echoing Machiavellian thought, the proverb stands in opposition to moral idealism, arguing for a pragmatic, ends-driven ethics. It reveals a cultural and psychological willingness to excuse questionable means for emotionally or politically compelling ends.

Rhetorical Devices

Parallelism

The balanced construction—'love and war'—creates a rhetorical symmetry that reinforces the proverb’s point: these two extremes are equally exempt from normal moral judgment.

Ellipsis and Compression

The compact phrasing omits explicit justification, relying on shared cultural assumptions to imply the rationale for such moral exceptions, making the proverb punchy and provocative.

Antithesis

It places emotional intimacy (love) alongside violent conflict (war), underscoring their contrasting natures while asserting their shared ethical license, which deepens its ironic tension.

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Transcription

Quotations

All stratagems In love, and that the sharpest war, are lawfull.

1647, FLETCHER AND MASSINGER, Lovers' Prog., V, p. 143

Advantages are lawful in Love and War.

1687, BEHN, Emp. Moon, I iii, p. 413

Stratagems ever were allow'd of in Love and War.

1709, CENTLIVRE, Man's Bewitched, V, p. 148

Cross References

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ALL is (All stratagems are) lawful in love and war - a scanned entry from Tilley's 1950 Dictionary of Proverbs.
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