A smoking HOUSE and a chiding wife make a man run out of doors (Smoke, rain, and a cursed wife drive a man out of his house)

Meaning & Analysis

Thick smoke, leaking rain, and a scolding wife make the home so unpleasant that the husband prefers to leave it; domestic discomforts—physical and relational—expel him from his own house.

Insights

Domestic Uninhabitability

When the home’s ‘climate’—whether soot in the air, water from the roof, or acrimony in speech—becomes noxious, belonging collapses; a house without comfort ceases to be a refuge.

Cumulative Friction

Small, persistent irritants compound: a little smoke, a steady drip, continual nagging—together they erode patience and drive flight. The proverb teaches that attrition, not catastrophe, often breaks a household.

Voice as Weather

The ‘chiding wife’ functions like bad weather inside: words can fog the air like smoke or fall like rain, making speech itself an environmental stressor that shapes behavior.

Maintenance and Governance

Good household rule means fixing chimneys and roofs and moderating tempers. Neglect—of repairs or of civility—produces the same outcome: evacuation.

Avoidance Coping

Rather than confront, the man flees; the line captures a psychology of escape, where leaving feels rational when constant discomfort surpasses one’s tolerance.

Premodern Materiality

Open hearths and faulty chimneys filled rooms with smoke; thatch and wooden shingles leaked. The proverb arises from tangible, daily nuisances that were common and costly to remedy.

Gendered Norms

By spotlighting the ‘cursed’ or ‘shrew’ wife, the saying polices female speech and preserves patriarchal hierarchy, making women the emblem of domestic discord while naturalizing male withdrawal.

Biblical and Folk Echoes

It resonates with the biblical trope of preferring a rooftop or wilderness to a quarrelsome spouse, showing a long tradition that moralizes household peace through the figure of the scold.

Moral of Proportion

The three evils are mundane, not monstrous; the wisdom lies in attending to little leaks—physical and emotional—before they render the whole dwelling unlivable.

Rhetorical Devices

Tricolon

Lists three parallel evils—smoke, rain, scold—to produce rhythmic accumulation and a sense of inescapable pressure.

Parallelism

Balanced phrases (‘smoke, rain, and a cursed wife’) align physical discomforts with moral-social discomfort, equating their expulsive force.

Metaphor

Treats speech as environmental hazard; the ‘chiding’ voice is cast as corrosive weather inside the home.

Hyperbole

Exaggerates the impulse to flee—‘run out of doors’—to drive home how relentless irritants can overwhelm attachment.

Alliteration

Sibilants and r-sounds in ‘smoke,’ ‘rain,’ ‘cursed’/‘chiding’ add sonic bite that helps the line catch in the ear.

domesticitymarriageconflictmaintenanceavoidancepatriarchy
Analyzed with gpt-5.0-thinking on December 20, 2025

Transcription

Quotations

And Salamon sayth there be thynges thre, Shrewde wyues, rayne, and smokes blake Make husbandes ofte theyr houses for-sake.

1530, Evil Marr., l. 96 in Early Pop. Poetry, IV 78

[As in Eras.]. Fyre, See, Woman, thre euylls. *What thynge is more daungerous then fyer? What more perilous then the see? and what more comberous then a shrewed wyfe?

1539, TAV., f. 31v

A hundred tymes and mo.. wyues and smoke cause men there hous to for go.

1547, COPLAND, Seven Sorrows, VI, s. C2

There are three thinges that suffer not a man to abyde in his owne house. Smooke, Rayne, and an evil wyfe.

1576, GASCOIGNE, Drum Doomsday, I, p. 227

Three euils haunt a house, rayne, a wicked woman, or a shrew, and smoke.

1586, WITHALS, s. G8v

Foure things driues a man from hys house. 1. Too much smoke. 2. A dropping roofe. 3. A fylthie ayre. 4. And a brawling woman.

1590, GREENE, Royal Exch., p. 249

There are three things that make a man weary of his house, a smoking chimney, a dropping eues, and a brauling woman.

1596, HARINGTON, Metam. Ajax, p. 77
1630, CL., p. 54.

Smoak, a dropping gutter, and a scold, cast the good man out of his hold.

1659, HOW., Span. Prov., p. 15

Smoke, rain, and a woman without reason, drives a man out of his mansion.

1666, TOR., It. Prov., 29, p. 96

A House with a Reek, and a Wife with a Reerd [a scolding noise], will soon make a Man run to the Door.

1721, KEL., p. 44

Cross References

Original Scan

A smoking HOUSE and a chiding wife make a man run out of doors (Smoke, rain, and a cursed wife drive a man out of his house) - a scanned entry from Tilley's 1950 Dictionary of Proverbs. A smoking HOUSE and a chiding wife make a man run out of doors (Smoke, rain, and a cursed wife drive a man out of his house) - a scanned entry from Tilley's 1950 Dictionary of Proverbs. (continuation)
Scan courtesy of HathiTrust Digital Library.
Used under CC BY-NC 3.0.

© 2026 TilleyProverbs.com · About

Last updated: January 27, 2026