Kiss and be FRIENDS

Meaning & Analysis

Offering a kiss serves as a gesture of reconciliation or the sealing of friendship, inviting parties to resolve conflicts and restore harmonious relations.

Insights

Reconciliation and Forgiveness

The kiss symbolizes a willing letting go of past grievances and the restoration of goodwill, marking a fresh start in relationships.

Social Ritual

Highlights the role of physical gestures as culturally recognized acts that transform social dynamics, making peace tangible and publicly acknowledged.

Affection and Trust

Represents an intimate expression of trust and affection that reinforces bonds beyond mere words or promises.

Historical and Literary Context

The proverb and its variations appear throughout early modern English drama and literature—from Middleton to Swift—indicating the enduring importance of ritualized reconciliation in social and political life.

Universal Cultural Practice

Kissing as a symbol of friendship or peace-making is a widespread human practice, reflecting the universal human desire for connection and harmony.

Psychological Impact

The act of a kiss can physically and emotionally reduce tension, fostering empathy and paving the way for renewed cooperation.

Rhetorical Devices

Imperative Mood

The direct, concise command invites immediate action, making the proverb memorable and effective as advice.

Synecdoche

Uses 'kiss' as a part representing the whole process of reconciliation and friendship-building.

Parataxis

Simple coordination of 'kiss and be friends' provides a brisk, unambiguous rhythm reinforcing the straightforward nature of the advice.

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Transcription

Quotations

Come, a kiss, and friends!

c.1608, MIDDLETON, Your Five Gallants, III v 43

A kisse and be frendes.

1611, Sec. Maiden's Trag., IV i, p. 50

Come busse [kiss] and friends .. what ails my babe to cry?

1635, F. QUARLES, Emblems (1643 ed.), II 8: Wks., III 62

Kisse, we will be friends.

1648, HERRICK, Hesp.: Poet. Wks., p. 78

The People and the Prince kist and were Friends, and so things were quiet for a while.

1689, SELDEN, Table Talk, p. 76

Come, a kiss, and all's Friends.

1664, T. KILLIGREW, Parson's Wed., V iv, p. 151

Weep not, Nurse! I am satisfied. Come, kiss and be friends.

1672, LACY, Dumb Lady, IV, p. 89

Let's kiss and be friends.

1738, SWIFT, Pol. Conv., III, p. 466

Cross References

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