Here's to our FRIENDS and hang up the rest of our kindred

Meaning & Analysis

Let us toast and honor our friends, while disregarding (or even rejecting) our relatives or kin.

Insights

Chosen Bonds Over Blood

Suggests that the connections we choose—our friends—are more valued than those assigned by birth, challenging the traditional primacy of family ties.

Celebration of Friendship

Elevates friendship to the highest social standing, making it worthy of public celebration and loyalty, sometimes at the expense of obligatory kinship.

Defiance of Convention

Expresses a rebellious or humorous disdain for the expectations or burdens that often come with familial relationships, favoring the joy and freedom found in friendship.

Social Commentary

The proverb inverts the usual social hierarchy that places family above all, reflecting changing attitudes or frustrations with kin, and highlighting the emotional significance of voluntary relationships.

Historical and Cultural Parallels

Similar sentiments appear in various traditions, such as 'Wheresoever you see your kindred make much of your friends,' showing a persistent tension between the claims of blood and the loyalty of chosen companions.

Psychological Truth

Acknowledges the psychological reality that friendship often provides emotional support and understanding unavailable within one’s family, especially in times of conflict or difference.

Rhetorical Devices

Toast Formula

Adopts the structure of a convivial toast, reinforcing the celebratory nature of friendship and the communal act of raising a glass together.

Antithesis

Juxtaposes friends (to be honored) with kindred (to be dismissed), heightening the contrast and underscoring the theme of preference.

Hyperbole

The exaggerated suggestion to 'hang up' one's kin adds a comic, irreverent tone, softening the underlying critique with humor.

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Analyzed with gpt-4.1 on July 12, 2025

Transcription

Quotations

1678, RAY, p. 347.

Cross References

Original Scan

Here's to our FRIENDS and hang up the rest of our kindred - a scanned entry from Tilley's 1950 Dictionary of Proverbs.
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