He that has many FRIENDS eats too much salt with his meat

Meaning & Analysis

Someone with many friends must share many meals (and much salt), suggesting that maintaining numerous friendships can be costly, burdensome, or lead to excess.

Insights

Social Burden

Indicates that having many friends comes with frequent social obligations and the associated expenses or inconveniences, making one’s life less simple and more demanding.

Test of Friendship

Alludes to the proverb 'Before you make a friend eat a bushel of salt with him,' implying that true friendship develops over time and through shared experience, not from mere quantity of acquaintances.

Potential for Superficiality

Warns that spreading oneself too thin among many companions can dilute the quality of relationships, leading to less meaningful bonds and possibly more disagreements or disappointments.

Historical Symbolism

Salt, a symbol of hospitality and preservation, was precious and commonly shared at the table; to eat much salt together is to spend much time and resources. The proverb cautions against the hidden costs—social, emotional, and material—of a wide circle.

Cultural Commentary

Across cultures, salt as a metaphor for shared experience or trial underscores that intimacy is forged not quickly, but through endurance and repetition. The saying indirectly values depth over breadth in friendship.

Psychological Realism

Maintaining many friendships can result in social fatigue and obligations that diminish enjoyment or authenticity, reflecting human limits in emotional investment and attention.

Rhetorical Devices

Metaphor

Uses 'eating too much salt' as a vivid stand-in for the cost, effort, and weariness associated with many social ties.

Hyperbole

Exaggerates the consumption of salt to dramatize the proverb’s point and make the social warning more memorable.

Antithesis (Implied)

Contrasts the ideal of select, meaningful friendships with the reality of many shallow ones, highlighting the drawbacks of excessive sociability.

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Transcription

Quotations

Amongst friends much salt is eaten.

1616, DR., no. 798

Indeed my Wife would ha’ had All the young Batchelers and Maids, forsooth, O’ the zixe Parishes hereabout: But I Cry’d none, sweet Sybil: none of that geare, I: It would lick zalt, I told her.

1640, JONSON, Tale Tub, II i 14
1659, HOW., Eng. Prov., p. 19

Who hath too many friends eats too much salt.

1659, HOW., Eng. Prov. into Fr. It. Span., p. 8

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He that has many FRIENDS eats too much salt with his meat - a scanned entry from Tilley's 1950 Dictionary of Proverbs.
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