MAIDENS should be meek till they be married

Meaning & Analysis

Unmarried women are expected to behave in a gentle and submissive manner, a demeanor that is not necessarily expected to continue after they are married.

Insights

Performance of Virtue

Suggests that pre-marital meekness is not an innate quality but a strategic social performance enacted by women to attract a spouse, a role that is abandoned after marriage.

Cynical View of Marriage

Frames marriage as a moment of unwelcome revelation, where a woman’s supposedly true, less compliant nature emerges after the goal of matrimony is achieved.

Social Conformity vs. True Nature

Highlights the conflict between the socially enforced ideal of a submissive maiden and the perceived reality of a more assertive or demanding wife.

Patriarchal Anxiety

The proverb reflects deep-seated patriarchal mistrust of female sincerity, framing pre-marital virtue as potentially deceptive and warning men about the 'true' nature of women revealed only after marriage.

Economic and Social Strategy

In a historical context where a woman's security depended on marriage, meekness was a crucial social currency. The proverb cynically interprets this survival strategy as inherent duplicity.

Literary Trope

Shakespeare's line, 'Maids are May when they are maids, but the sky changes when they are wives,' perfectly captures this proverbial sentiment, illustrating a common cultural and literary trope about female transformation upon marriage.

Radical Transformation

The striking 18th-century addition 'and then burn Kirks' uses hyperbole to emphasize a dramatic shift from submission to rebellion, suggesting marriage unlocks a powerful, even destructive, agency in women.

Rhetorical Devices

Antithesis

Creates a sharp, implicit contrast between the prescribed behavior of 'maidens' (meek) and the anticipated, opposite behavior of 'wives'.

Alliteration

The repetition of the 'm' sound in 'Maidens', 'meek', and 'married' creates a memorable, rhythmic quality that enhances its proverbial force.

Irony

There is a deep situational irony in that the very quality prescribed for securing marriage (meekness) is expected to vanish once the marriage is secured.

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Transcription

Quotations

a.1598, FERG., MS, no. 994

(while they be married)

1668, R.B., p. 37

(married, and then burn Kirks)

1721, KEL., p. 253

Spoken often by way of Reflection, when we say that such a one is a good humour'd Girl, as if you would say, observe how she'll prove when she is married.

*Note

Shakespeare Citations

Maids are May when they are maids, but the sky changes when they are wives.

AYL, IV.i

Cross References

Original Scan

MAIDENS should be meek till they be married - a scanned entry from Tilley's 1950 Dictionary of Proverbs.
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