It is dear-bought HONEY that is licked off a thorn

Meaning & Analysis

Sweet honey taken from a thorn costs too much; the pleasure is not worth the pain required to obtain it.

Insights

Illicit Pleasure

The sweetness of forbidden or imprudent enjoyments exacts a hidden surcharge—wounds, shame, or consequence—so the net price of the delight is ruinously high.

Mispriced Rewards

What glitters as a bargain is actually overpriced once injuries, risks, or moral debts are tallied; the proverb urges full-cost accounting before reaching for the treat.

Temptation’s Trap

Thorns guard the honey; the very difficulty of access can heighten desire, but that engineered scarcity turns the seeker into their own victim.

Moral Injury

If the ‘getting’ involves deception or degradation, the sweetness is stained; the internal wound—guilt, loss of self-respect—renders the purchase too dear.

Impatience vs. Craft

Licking directly from a thorn is rash. Skill, tools, or waiting might obtain sweetness safely; the line indicts impulsiveness that bypasses prudent means.

Symbolic Ecology

Honey symbolizes delight, eloquence, reward; thorns symbolize defense, curse, and consequence. Their pairing encodes a natural law: valuable pleasures are often protected by pain, testing judgment and restraint.

Early Modern Moralism

Commentators glossed the saying as a warning against ‘unlawful pleasures’: the Christian moral economy reads thorny access as providential hedge—pain that prices folly out of reach if wisdom heeds it.

Cost–Benefit Wisdom

A mercantile idiom (‘dear-bought’) translates ethics into accounting. The proverb anticipates modern decision theory: include externalities—health, reputation, opportunity cost—before pursuing the sweet.

Variants and Parallels

Kin proverbs—‘He has bought honey too dear who hurts his hands…’ or the nettle variant—reinforce the same calculus, and echo broader images like ‘rose and thorn’: beauty invites touch; pain disciplines desire.

Psychology of Present Bias

Immediate sweetness narrows time horizons. The line exposes how near rewards overpower foresight, counseling techniques—delay, distancing, safeguards—to keep valuation honest.

Rhetorical Devices

Extended Metaphor

Maps pleasure and cost onto honey and thorns, converting abstract prudence into a vivid, tactile scene of tongue and prick.

Antithesis

Sweetness versus sharpness dramatizes the clash of desire and consequence, tightening the moral contrast.

Aphoristic Compression

‘Dear-bought’ condenses the lesson into a market verdict—short, final, and portable across contexts.

Sensory Imagery

Taste and pain cohabit the line, engaging mouth and skin so that the warning is felt as much as understood.

Paradox

The route to sweetness inflicts hurt; the very act that promises pleasure delivers pain, a tension that makes the proverb memorable.

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Analyzed with gpt-5.0-thinking on December 20, 2025

Transcription

Quotations

Honey licked on the thornes, is to dearly bought.

1596, DEL., S. P5v
a1598, FERG., MS, no. 806.

He buyes honie too deere that lickes it off thornes.

1611, COT., s.v. Miel

He comes too dear by honey, who licks it off thorns.

1659, HOW., Fr. Prov., p. 11

He that licks Honey from Thorns, pays too dear for it.

1664, COD., p. 197
1668, R.B., p. 30.

[As in 1664 Cod.].

1670, RAY, p. 13
1678, RAY, p. 379.

He that licks Hony from Thorns pays dear for it.

1687, MIEGE, S.V. Hony

*Spoken of the ill Effect of unlawful Pleasures.

1721, KEL., p. 197

He that licks Honey from a Nettle, pays too dear for it.

1732, FUL., no. 2215

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